I would repectfully disagree with your respectful disagreement. The focus of OOP is on the data. It’s all about isolating changings and managing / controlling how data flows through the system. Do we need to call it Data Oriented? No, that would be redundant.
Why is it called Object Oriented? Because that’s how data is represented. Even the naming is all about the data. Functions are given a back seat to the data. The focus of FP is on the functions, with data being secondary.
How OOP goes about things may not be your cup of tea, which is fine, but it’s primary focus has always been on the data. The more a program focuses on data, the closer it gets to being OO.
I couldn’t have described the fundamental purpose of OOP any better if I tried. I’m actually getting a little teary eyed over here… Once it clicks how useful encapsulation and polymorphism really are, your journey to the dark side will be complete.